When people appeal to group identity, the problem is not that they’re trying to frame their group as too different and unique from all the rest. The problem is that they’re not going far enough in that direction.
Your struggle and triumph do not just belong to abstract categories you’re defined into, they belong to you. The sooner you define your goals and challenges as your own, not some group’s, the sooner you’ll make progress.
“The smallest minority on earth is the individual.” — Ayn Rand