Forget ‘how to be a man’.  Forget ‘how to be a freelancer’.  Forget how to be a good conservative, liberal, or libertarian.  Forget how to be a mentor or mentee.  Forget how to be a philanthropist, environmentalist, atheist, reactionary, revolutionary, artist, or entrepreneur.

Forget any effort aimed at your ontological status in the abstract.

Instead, do your damn job.

Your job is whatever activities you’re engaged in and committed do.  Just do them.  Do them right.  Do them now.  Do them with pride.

If you won’t, quit and switch to things you will.

Seeking or giving advice about your state of being is beyond pointless until your state of doing is beyond reproach.