On Leaving Things Open

It’s really hard for me to leave things open. I like to complete stuff, wrap it with a bow, and move on.

Some things need time and benefit from a non-immediate cadence. I’ve had to learn this – still am learning – and now leave some messages without a response and questions unanswered when it seems they need time to breathe.

Immediacy is the better default setting. But it’s not always best.

And it’s not just that waiting allows time to gather more information or weigh things consciously. That is part of it. But even without any explicit attempt to think on or discuss a matter, just giving it time and allowing yourself to go through some different mental cycles and moods can make the response better, clearer.

There are cadences to everything, and an immediate back and forth is only the ideal cadence for a few things.