From the day you’re born, the entire world is telling you what to do, what to think, and who to be.
That’s the test. The secret is that all of it is bullshit. None of it should be followed. You’ve got to find a way to create and maintain your own identity in the face of a universe that screams, “Conform!”
Once you become you, a lot of the stuff the world offers becomes useful and valuable. But not because everyone tells you it is. Because you decide it is. And only after you’ve learned to ignore the demands to heed it.