There’s a paradox in many parts of life where the more you care about an outcome, the less likely it is to occur.
The problem is that not caring isn’t really an option. If you try not to care as a way of getting the thing you want, you’re not caring because you care, and you’re back where you started.
The only way to escape the trap is to find something deeper and further up to care about and focus on that. Find the thing behind the thing – the higher principle, goal, or ideal from which the object of your care flows. Aim at that.
If you start to apply this, and keep aiming as high as you can, the concept, “Seek ye first the Kingdom of God, and all of these things shall be added unto you” starts to make sense.
Focus on the highest thing you can and you’ll get the lower order stuff that flows from it. Focus your care on the lower order stuff and you’ll only get frustrated.
Not an easy process, but worthwhile.